Dating advice for big guys
Some date online, while others choose a more "traditional" route. #We Are The67Natalie Craig, 25, Chicago Plus-Size Fashion Blogger at Natalie in the City Are you currently single? Back then, my mentality was like, ‘I will just be lucky for anyone to love me.’ And now that’s kind of changed to where I feel like, ‘I’m worthy of love, no matter what.’ That’s just sort of been aided by these movements and being able to have my blog and being able to speak to so many women about accepting themselves at the size that they are."With that being said, I felt like dating was a little bit harder for me three years ago because of that mentality. I always had fun dating, and I’ve always been really happy being single. I’d have a guy text me and be like, ‘Do you want to meet up and have sex tonight? But he was the first man to tell me that I didn’t have to lose weight, that I could gain weight.
A few enjoy more casual sexual experiences, while others are happy in their committed relationships. But I didn’t have the confidence to go up to guys at bars. ’ And when I’d say no, they’d turn around and go, ‘Oh, well, you’re fat anyway.’ It’s so terrible."That’s so hard. And I did gain weight while we were together, and he didn’t care…"So he was the first man who acted right. They find plus women sexy, but they don’t want to say it out loud."And they lead with this in their messages? And I’m like, I’m not super concerned with it on a day-to-day basis, unless I have to put on clothes. I’m not on Fet Life where I’m actively looking for that.
There’s the assumption that chubby bodies are devalued, so there’s no way that I could be with this other person. But the amount of times I’m with Action Bronson and people are like, ‘You’re so cute together…’ It’s like we found each other. And I’ve never gotten that with the other guy."Plus-size people are the exact same as thin people.
I’m currently dating two cisgendered men right now. We don't need to have our bodies tethered to our entire existence.
So it’s wild, because I was getting introduced to white men, and they were so into me.
But for you, it seems like sex is on the table from the get-go.
"It’s funny to hear what men say when they think they’re being complimentary.