Divorce and dating
All your friends and family may be shouting that it is okay and ‘time heals hurts,’ but this is not good counsel.It is not TIME but what you do with it that will make the difference. If available in your country, I encourage you to find a Christian counsellor, or a pastor trained in counselling. Our emotions are like sponges and absorb everything as we go along in life.The ‘forces’ at play after a divorce move toward getting on with life by finding someone else quickly who will be all that was missed in the previous marriage. The divorce rate for remarriages is about 50% higher than for first marriage divorces (divorce after remarriage – 60-70%; divorce after first marriage – 43% according to last US Census).I encourage divorced individuals to take a couple of years to process and get as healthy as they can before they consider dating again.But the overall power of the Word of God combined with good, practical sense does suggest the following: 1.Before one should consider dating after divorce, they should allow plenty of time to grieve the loss of the marriage.
They both live with me, although their father lives in the next town and my son often stays with him. When should I tell my kids that I am dating and when should I introduce them to this new person in my life?
It is important to understand that even though God provided these occurrences where divorce action can be taken, He prefers that the couple work through their challenge if at all humanly and divinely possible.